Recovery from an affair is hard.

After an affair has happened, the challenge becomes recovery.

Is it possible to put the past behind you when the past includes you or your partner’s affair?

Recovery after upsetting events is a skill set that all couples need – one that they especially need to use after the trauma of infidelity.

The good news is that full recovery, even after long-standing or multiple affairs, is possible. Ideally, recovery ends up with everyone having learned and grown.

Does counseling help with recovery?

The aftermath of betrayal can be long and painful. Healing after an affair might seem to be a harrowing task.

Working with a trained counselor helps with surviving infidelity.

Counseling is an effective way to recover after an affair. Through counseling, both partners regain trust in one another.

So, if you ask, does a marriage survive infidelity, or does marriage counseling work in healing from infidelity in marriage? The answer is yes, but only if you are determined to do the work!

Deceiver – explore your relationship.

• Understanding and clarifying personal decisions and problems in the marriage need to be explored by both partners.
• Become aware of the deeper problems within yourself and your marriage and commit to making active changes.
• You need to understand if there was a long-standing sense of inadequacy that the affair partner soothed.
• Did underlying anger regarding your partner cause your marital distance? Was there insufficient prioritizing of the marriage?

The Deceived needs to heal from the betrayal.

• Recovery for the Deceived begins with healing the pain caused by the marital breach itself. Healing begins when the Deceiver expresses genuine compassion for the pain that the betrayal has caused.
• Demonstrating real empathy over the pain and hurt created by the Deceiver helps prevent long-term resentment by the betrayed partner.
• Over time, the betrayed spouse/partner must explore their feelings of shock, rage, hurt, confusion, and sadness. A safe place allows the betrayed spouse/partner to be heard and listened to by the Deceiver.
• Clarity regarding how and why the affair happened needs exploration while using empathy and support.

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